Sunday, May 13, 2012

The Secret of Mother's Day

I like a free of work and cost (to me) meal as much as the next person. And who doesn't love flowers and gifts? But the secret deal with motherhood is this:  I have gained more than I have given from being a mother.

No doubt about it, parents work hard and give up a lot. It is exhausting many, many times and I agree it is rewarding and validating for my efforts to be recognized and appreciated by my children. However, there is a flip side that I don't hear or read about too often - how being a parent changes you for the better. Here is my Mother's Day letter to my children.

T and J,

You have taught me so much through our journey together so far. Through all the daily tasks of raising you and taking care of you - nursing you when you are sick, correcting you when you were naughty, guiding you when you are unsure, cheering your gains, being by your side in all the medical things, comforting you and talking through things when you are scared or sad, being there when you need me, getting goofy and silly together (a lot) - all these things have made ME a better person than I ever would have been without you.

I am a stronger, more patient, more caring, more open, more tolerant person than I would have been had I not been your mother.  I won't sugar coat it. It has been tough many times, and you know that. You two have been through a lot. But we Three Musketeers have stuck together. And through you, I grow into a better person.

I am grateful every single day that I am your mother. And I wouldn't change it for the world.

You two are my reason. YOU are my Mother's Day present.

I love you.


  1. So nice to have you comment on our smugmug and to meet someone else who puts links on smugmug to their bloodsport site! I mean blogspot site ( that's spellcheck in action, not me!)
    A very sensitive post. The only problem is knowing which is daughter and which is mom! The photos are great, I love the B&W's. What do T&J stand for?

  2. This is beautiful. :-) -Skeeter